Too many people today have a negative view of marriage because there are so many bad examples of married life. The problem with this is that it fills our minds with doubts and fears about our marriage, even thoughts of divorce. You fear that your husband will cheat on you. You fear that you’ll end up hating one another some day. You fear that eventually you’ll get a divorce. But fear and faith can’t live in the same mind. We either live in fear or we live in faith.
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. (1 John 4:18)
For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power,love and self-discipline. (2 Tim. 1:7)
God did not give us a spirit of fear but one of love and love drives out fear. When we constantly dwell on our fears, or worry about the future, constantly planning for the worst-case scenario, we are allowing bad things into our minds and into our lives. Our thoughts and words are powerful. If we speak words of fear and doubt, God can’t move in our lives. God works through faith. Every time Jesus went to heal someone, He always asked about their faith. “Do you believe?” When we have faith, we can see miracles in our lives. When we doubt, all we’ll see is worry, fear, and anxiety.
Fill your marriage with faith and not fear! Think of the good things about your husband. Ask God to help you be a better, godlier wife. Ask Him to surround your marriage with favor and blessing, to protect it from anyone or anything who would harm it.
If we want faith-filled marriages we need to learn to take things one day at a time and to live by faith, not by sight (2 Cor. 5:7). We can’t allow fear to take control. As Joel Osteen says, “When fear knocks, let faith answer.” Fear never comes from God. Doubt, worry, and anxiety never come from God. When we feel these things, we need to speak words of faith. Say, “No, I don’t receive those lies!” Don’t agree with the enemy! We can either agree with God or agree with the enemy but we can’t do both. If we’re agreeing with the enemy, giving in to doubt, fear, worry, and anxiety, we can’t expect to receive anything from God. James 1:6-8 says it:
But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.
Let’s stop giving the enemy a foothold in our marriages. Let’s fill our marriages with faith in God and in His promises! Let’s believe and not doubt so that we can receive everything God wants us to have in Christ Jesus!