Saturday Thoughts: How to Handle Non-Christians

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how we, as followers of Christ, should handle non-Christians. I haven’t been around non-Christians for much of my life until I started ballroom dancing. I grew up around Christians and in the church – even my homeschool group was Christian. After I quit ballroom dancing I was surrounded again by Christians, except when I went to college for a year. But now I am around them again and so I keep asking the Lord what I should do.

Non-Christians certainly aren’t terrible people. In fact, the sad truth is that I’ve had more non-Christians be kind to me than I have had “Christians” be kind to me. However, non-Christians have very different beliefs and many like to share those beliefs with me; which is fair as I share my beliefs with them when the Lord wants me to. But, what do you do when someone shares a belief with you that you know is wrong?

We can find our example in Jesus. Jesus rarely told people that they were wrong. Instead, He loved them unconditionally. Even when they persecuted and killed Him, He continued to love them. And, when I ask God what to do when non-Christians don’t believe the truth, that’s what He always tells me – love them and pray for them. Don’t preach at them, don’t tell them they are wrong or how to live, just love them and pray for them. Now, there are times we should speak – times, even, when the Holy Spirit will take over and speak through us. Those are amazing times and probably one of the best experiences we can ever have. But, unless the Holy Spirit is telling us to say something, the best thing we can do is keep living an obedient, godly life so that we can be a living example to others, and to love people unconditionally, no matter how false their doctrine may be.

This actually goes for other Christians too. Some Christians don’t study God’s Word for themselves or just have wrong beliefs, but it isn’t always our place to say so. Most of the time we are to live by example, love unconditionally, and lift them up in our prayers so that God can handle them.

So, that’s my answer to you as well. If you are around non-Christians, or Christians who believe false doctrine, here is what you should do:

  • Live by example
  • Speak only if led by the Holy Spirit
  • Love unconditionally
  • Pray for them

When we do this, it is far more likely that they will be born again (or for Christians they will learn God’s truth) than if we were to preach at them and force our views on them. No one likes that and usually, it just brings up people’s defenses and they want nothing more to do with you or your God.

I love you guys and I pray that we will all be lights in this dark world and lead others to salvation!

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  • Karen

    This is so true and godly wisdom! I always think of John 3:17 “For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him.” We (as Christian) can really quote John 3:16 but often forget the very next verse. We see Jesus always loving the people around Him and never condemning them. In fact, the only time we see Jesus really upset is with the religious leaders of that day. But with ‘sinners’ He ate with them and talked with them and loved them. His greatest commandments is to love God and love others. Keep writing and using the godly wisdom God is gifted you with!

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