• Heart Appearance
    Faith,  Relationships

    Heart Appearance

    But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7) If you grew up in the church or have been around church-people long enough you’ve probably heard the phrase (or something similar) to look at things through God’s eyes. Maybe you’re fighting with someone and a friend tells you to look at them through God’s eyes. Marriage counselors tell you to look at your spouse through God’s eyes. Preachers tell us to look at our trials through God’s eyes. To…

  • Talk About It
    Love,  Marriage,  Relationships

    Talk About It

    Yesterday was not a very good day for Justin or me. I’m not going into a lot of detail, but suffice it to say I’d been angry about something for awhile and kept hoping the feeling would go away. It didn’t. And instead of talking to Justin about it when I was calm and rational, I ended up screaming at him before he went to work because the emotions I’d been bottling up exploded everywhere. It was a bad morning. But we both had time to calm down while he was gone and by the time he came home from work, we were okay again. We talked it out and…

  • Sin

    The Relationship Killers

    In today’s post, I want to talk about sins that kill relationships (any relationship, not just marriage): gossip, slander, no understanding, no mercy, and bitterness. Gossip and Slander Gossip is a big deal in the church today. We love to talk about people, though we often use the guise of “prayer.” I grew up in many different churches but I always heard the same things. “Oh, Mary, let me tell you what Julia did so that we can pray for her.” You don’t really want to pray for the person, you just want to tell people what he or she has done. I’m just as guilty of it! I’ve talked…

  • Love

    Love Keeps No Record

    Unlike Santa Claus (yes, I do know Christmas is over, but only just), who knows who’s naughty and who’s nice and even keeps a list, we aren’t supposed to keep a record of the wrongs that people do to us. We all screw up. We all hurt other people whether intentionally or unintentionally. We can hurt people through our selfishness, and sometimes we can hurt people when we try to “help” them. We think we know what’s best for them and we tell them so, but all it does is put ill will between you. The other person doesn’t appreciate it. I know this is a little off-topic, but I…

  • Love

    Love is Not Rude

    I believe rudeness is becoming an epidemic in the world today – or at least in America. I can’t speak for the rest of the world because I haven’t been there yet. The South has always been said to be one of the friendliest parts of the United States, and some people are, but most of the people I see and observe are rude. In my opinion (through observation and lots of thought), it’s because self-centeredness truly is an epidemic. As a species, humans are incredibly selfish. Certainly, we can have moments of selflessness, and some are more or less selfish than others. For example, my husband Justin is far less…

  • Love

    Love is Not Proud

    In 1 Corinthians 13, the Bible says that love is not proud. What is pride? Webster’s defines it as “a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.” That doesn’t sound too bad. So, is pride really such a bad thing? Let’s look at God’s Word. What does Scripture say about pride? Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. (Proverbs 16:18) In his pride the wicked man does not seek Him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God. (Psalm 10:4) When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but…