Growing up I used to believe in generational curses. I thought that, for example, worry was a generational curse because my mom worries, my grandma worried, and it probably goes further back down the line. But recently I’ve been learning that those who are born-again are not under any curse, generational or not, because Jesus took all curses on His own body when He died on the cross.
The law is not based on faith; on the contrary, it says, “The person who does these things will live by them.” Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: “Cursed is everyone who is hung on a pole.” He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit. (Galatians 3:12-14)
You see, generational curses did exist in the Old Testament because they were under the law. But we aren’t under the law anymore, we’re under grace. Jesus redeemed us and broke every curse that might have been over us.
“Why then do you struggle with worry that seems to be passed down in the generations?” you may ask.
Well, the Holy Spirit has revealed to me that it isn’t a curse, it’s a wrong mindset. Children learn through observation. If they see their parent spend unwisely or eat too much or live an ungodly lifestyle or worry about their problems, the child is far more likely to do the same.
My mom reads all my posts so please don’t think I’m blaming her for my worry habit. What I am saying is that I watched her worry about everything and because I was around her all the time, I picked up the habit. But it isn’t a curse, it’s a bad habit that we need to break. You see, I’m learning how to break the habit of worry now before I have children, that way they won’t see their mom and dad worry about anything, so they are less likely to worry themselves. It’s not that I’m breaking a “generational curse,” it’s that I’m breaking a bad habit and what children see is most likely what they will do.
Still don’t believe me? Let me use a few examples that aren’t really considered “spiritual” so that you can see that it isn’t a curse, it’s just a bad habit.
If a child sees that their parent rarely cleans the house, the child will usually grow up with a bad habit of leaving dirty dishes in the sink, throwing towels or dirty clothes on the floor instead of the hamper, leaving the bed unmade, etc. Does that mean that uncleanliness is a generational curse in their family? No! It just means that they had a role model who didn’t clean and they learned the same bad habit.
If a child sees their parent easily angered when driving or walking through a store and so becomes easily angered themselves, is that a generational curse? No, it is the child learning behavior through their parents, which is what children do. This same child, if placed with parents who are slow to anger and behave calmly in situations will more likely do the same. We learn through observation.
Yes, generational curses did exist in the Old Testament because they lived under the law. But when Jesus came He fulfilled the law and gave us grace and mercy. We aren’t punished for the sins of our fathers anymore, we are only judged by our own sins. And we are not under any curses because Jesus took on every curse on the cross. We may develop bad habits, but we can always break them through faith, diligence, determination, self-control, and discipline.
In my case, when it comes to worry or doubt, I keep asking God to help me break this bad habit, I fill myself with teaching that increases my faith, and I spend time in God’s Word learning more about Him, who He is, how great He is, and that He is a miracle-working God. This is helping me to break the habit of doubt and worry in my life.
It won’t happen overnight. Bad habits take a long time to develop and it usually takes about 30 days of doing the right thing diligently to break a bad habit. And you must also remember that you can’t just get rid of a bad habit – you have to replace it with a good one. Replace worry with faith; replace bad eating with healthy eating; replace laziness with discipline and exercise. If we truly want the bad out, we need to put the good in.
I hope this opens your eyes to some things as God has opened my eyes. I love you guys and pray you have an awesome week!
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